Life isn’t meant to be easy. God never promised us easy. He promised a full, abundant life, joy even. But he never promised easy. In fact, we have been told time and time again by modern day prophets as well as the scriptures that life would be hard.
“The hard things in our lives should come as no surprise. One of the earliest covenants we make with the Lord is to live the law of sacrifice. Sacrifice, by definition, involves giving up something desirable. With experience we realize it is a small price to pay in relation to the blessings that follow” Elder Stanley G Ellis, “Do We Trust Him?” Oct, 2017
And why shouldn’t it be? We were put on this Earth to learn, grow, and to become the best we can be so that we can live with our Heavenly Father once more. We don’t learn by things being easy. Ever heard of an “Easy A”class? You may have even taken one. Did you learn much, if at all? Now, think back to a hard class that you had to diligently study and prepare for to do well… you learned a lot more, right? It may not have necessarily been your favorite or even enjoyable, but you expanded your knowledge.
Now, just because life is hard… that does not mean we can’t have joy. We were created to have joy! I love the General Conference talk“A Summer with Great Aunt Rose” by Dieter F Uchtdorf.Aunt Rose says, “God didn’t design us to be sad. He created us to have joy! So if we trust Him, He will help us to notice the good, bright, hopeful things of life. And sure enough, the world will become brighter. No, it doesn’t happen instantly, but honestly, how many good things do? Seems to me that the best things, like homemade bread or orange marmalade, take patience and work.”
The more I think about life like this… as a preparation… a learning experience, and that its not supposed to be so easy, ironically it becomes easier. My circumstances don’t change, but my attitude does. I stop resisting . Whenever I can stop resisting and lean in to whatever is hard in my circumstances right now, the more humble, open and willing I am to learn what Heavenly Father wants me to learn and grow into the person He wants me to become.
Sometimes, whenever I read talks about trials, I think well, things aren’t that bad. That may be true, but we all have our own trials, and levels of intensity and I don’t believe that your trials are any less hard for you just because someone else has it worse. You haven’t been through that worse thing yet, so for now this is your top level hard. Maybe it will get harder, maybe not. But don’t feel guilty for thinking that things are hard for you, even though you know other people have it “worse.”
Some examples of (mundane) hard from my life:
- This pregnancy – I have been sick, not able to eat a lot of what I want, had “false labor ” that sent me to the hospital but no progression and just exhaustion while also caring for a toddler
- Husband in school- I won’t lie, it’s hard to have a husband in school while my little angel toddler is running around. The schedule Varies daily and sometimes he is home but not really “home” because he has to do homework. But all R wants is her daddy.
See? I know people who had scary pregnancies, or weren’t able to manage their sickness like I’ve been able to. Or single mothers who don’t have a significant other to help all. But that doesn’t make mine less hard for me.
Do you know what can help though? Serving others. As we love and serve each other, we will be filled with charity or the pure love of Christ. We will stop being so worn down by our own burdens because we are lifting each other up.
So, tl;dr :
- Life is supposed to be hard;its how we learn and grow.
- Have joy through your trials
- Don’t feel guilty for thinking your life is hard even though other people may be worse off.
- Serve others